Here is how I decided to solve this using the appropriate ListView:
<ListView.ItemContainerStyle >
<Style TargetType="ListViewItem">
<Style.Triggers>
<DataTrigger Binding="{Binding ShowAcrossColumns}" Value="True">
<Setter Property="Template">
<Setter.Value>
<ControlTemplate TargetType="{x:Type ListViewItem}">
<Grid>
<Grid>
<Grid.ColumnDefinitions>
<ColumnDefinition Width="{Binding ElementName=myListView, Path=View.Columns[0].Width}" />
<ColumnDefinition Width="*" />
</Grid.ColumnDefinitions>
<TextBlock Grid.Column="0" Padding="6,3,6,3" Text="{Binding Column1Text}" />
<TextBlock Grid.Column="1" Padding="6,3,6,3" Text="{Binding ColumnSpanningText}" />
</Grid>
</Grid>
</ControlTemplate>
</Setter.Value>
</Setter>
</DataTrigger>
</Style.Triggers>
<Setter Property="Template">
<Setter.Value>
<ControlTemplate TargetType="{x:Type ListViewItem}">
<Grid>
<GridViewRowPresenter />
</Grid>
</ControlTemplate>
</Setter.Value>
</Setter>
</Style>
</ListView.ItemContainerStyle>
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