So, now I’m at an impasse, and I hope that another pair of eyes will catch what I’m missing, or at least point me to the side to dig further. Sorry in advance, I do not often ask quick and easy questions.
Scenario: A huge Silverlight solution with some erratic details that they want to use with new features, but rewrites or something else without much effort. One of which is a virtualized ListBox. This ListBox is the parent of many different things in ways that I usually did not expect to see as they were. So, to visualize a little hierarchy in pseudo;
ListBox (parent)
-ListBoxItemTemplate - The user control that hosts the ContentControl, where other UserControls are unloaded.
--- Several other UserControls that are unloaded in the previous ContentControl at runtime based on numerous conditions.
---- Inside each nested UserControl, other nested ItemsControls and collections with their own Item template are often used.
I hope I still have your understanding of this monster, but if not, there is something more visual here to help convey the problem I am addressing;

So here is my current problem. Based on what they want, without doing a lot of refactoring, I try to make lemonade and use the SelectedItem bool from the parent list to perform some actions in some of these UserControls subtasks.
IsSelected ListBoxItem. (xaml wise) {Binding IsSelected, RelativeSource={RelativeSource Mode=FindAncestor, AncestorType=ListBoxItem}} UserControls.
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