You need to use techniques such as references, joins, includesor eager_load, depending on what you need. The easiest way to determine what to choose is to go to the documentation / api and read them.
, order_reminders Order, joins, INNER JOIN, orders order_reminders, , , , -.
Order.joins(:order_reminders).where('order_reminders.date < ?', 1.month.from_now)