Well, you cannot change the display color of the selection parameter, since it is displayed by the operating system instead of HTML, but your second answer for removing the blue outline looks like this:
Add outline:noneto your css:
.contactselect select
{
background: url(Images/ArrowO.png) no-repeat right #000;
width:268px;
padding:5px;
color:#F7921C;
font-size:25px;
font-family:dumbledor;
line-height:1;
border:solid 4px #F7921C;
border-radius:10px;
height:45px;
-webkit-appearance:none;
outline: none;
}
Here is the JS Fiddle Demo .